Cheating Husband – Should You Take Your Cheating Husband Back?
Should You Give Him A Second Chance If He Cheats?
You’ve seen it in movies, you’ve heard if from friends…and now it’s happening to you. Your world that is centralized around your husband and family suddenly fell apart when you discovered that he is cheating on you behind your back. You’ve probably even confronted your cheating husband and vowed to make him pay for it.
Torn between between getting even, giving up and walking away completely and trying to make things work again, how do you know what’s best for you and the kids? Well, should truth be told, getting even for your husband’s unfaithfulness is only going to get you hurt deeper.
You can break his windscreen, terrorizing the other women or sleep with another man…but as you succumb to your anger and self-destruction, you also make it harder for yourself to heal and eventually move on.
Withdrawing from the relationship is a passive but sensible way to deal with infidelity, but it is somewhat a last resort when the relationship is beyond repair. Perhaps the question to whether you should take your cheating husband back is if he’s worth a second chance. Was it an impulsive one-off incident or was it a love affair?
It may be comforting to know that men cheat out of boredom, curiosity and impulse. While a man can have physical relationship with another woman, he is not prepared to leave his wife to be with her. In another words, they separate sex from love, unlike women. Although he is a stupid pig to sleep with the other woman, he is stupid enough to want to trade his family for the short term thrill.
For women, sex is love, because they can only be intimate with a man if she is comfortable with him. Also, women seek fulfillment outside of their marriage when they feel deprived in one. Ask any cheating man that is honest enough, and he will tell you that men can cheat no matter how perfect his wife is, or how happy he is with his family.Hint: Stop blaming yourself!
Some will regard men as the weaker sex when it comes to resisting temptations, but this also goes back to their natural instinct to “sow their seeds”. Men are also vulnerable to cheat when their friends are doing so and getting away with it. Usually, this kind of friends will tend to brag about their “trophies” and indirectly challenge the rest to the task. Well… you know the rest of the story.
If your intention is to take your cheating husband back, then you should adopt a sound game plan right from the beginning. There are many reasons why a woman want his cheating husband back – from financial dependancy to forgiveness. The good news is, rehabilitating a cheating husband is much easier than rehabilitating a cheating wife, yet many women are practically shoving their husbands into the arms of their mistresses.
Your first step to get your cheating husband back from the other woman is to remind him how good you are, and how beautiful your family is. But instead of doing this, many women went berserk and suddenly transform into a fire-puffing dragon and start doing uncivilized things. This is not the wonderful women he married and pledged his undying love to. Make no mistake. We understand your source of anger, but if you really want to get even, you just have to work that anger and turn things around for good.
Relationship author T.W. Jackson advised that in order to win your husband back, you should take time away from him by suggesting that you should stop seeing each other for some time.
Instead of assuming the role of a victim, Jackson points out that you should take action to lead your husband into believing that he is the abandoned party to place things to your favor.